If our eternal life depends on us being free of mortal sins, it seems very important to make good confessions. Ultimately yes, we depend on God’s mercy and rely on the power of Jesus on the cross [i.e. his love for us] and so from our hearts we must have contrition for our sins. This guide is to help us make a thorough confession as it seems there is more grace as we frequent the sacrament of confession with more fervor. I know personally in my life going to confession often has helped me heal so much and I would like this healing for you.
The fisheaters website has a good examination of conscience [unfortunately I can’t recommend the entire site though it does has good material there], while I have made the observation the the 12 Steps [created by a Catholic priest] is a good [but not perfect] way thoroughly make a confession. [to elaborate later in another revision]
Some points to consider for how to make a good confession:
- There is really no good reason to not go to confession – consider how blessed we are and the benefits of confession
- Yet at the same time are we implicitly thinking only of the benefits we can derive from confession? e.g. to go to confession just to remove our guilt?
- Are we asking God for grace to remove all our weaknesses?
- We should not ask God to remove all our weaknesses!
- Sure we want grace to help us not sin, but we don’t want God to take away our crosses!
- If we cease to struggle, that’s when we seriously have a problem; without weaknesses we would make ourselves God, but fundamentally we need God because undeniably we a broken human nature
- We need to ask for grace to persevere (ironically it is the grace to keep struggling!)
- Past failure has worth:
- Don’t forget about our own sins – not in a morbid way but as a reminder of our need of God, a reminder of God’s love for us, that we may be more grateful
- Remember: Jesus chose Peter; Peter was more lovable in God’s eyes because of his weaknesses.
- God loves us [despite our weaknesses] because He is loving, not because He is looking at our weaknesses as some as a vengeful judge nor is He looking for us to earn His love
- Make no mistake, Hell does exist and while God does not want us there, we have a choice, just as we have freedom to love